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[Zan]

Hey guys! An introvert I hold sexual relations with has me stumped. Not sexually, but in understanding...anything about him.He is indecisive, great listener, conventional-yet he enjoys my oddity (Im an entp). He wants marriage, I want become a clown, move to Las Vegas, and sprint around slugging streetgirls. Or travel and get lost again, possible death involved, but just enough to motivate my survival, and in result have a different perspective on life, and thus entertain friends--blah blah.He is a conservative pot smoking Catholic, I guess, and I am a libertarian artsy/innovative, bulls and bears stock person.I try to call him every day, because I have to tell him about how great I did within that24 hours, and he finds that excessive. So, I compromised by sending him lengthy text messages about The Entire Scope of Life at the moment, and he tells me to "settle down" but yet I make him laugh and Im always fun, so. I further narrowed it to one page texts, yuck.The odd facet with him is that he has a wide range of friends. I have noticed a pattern in my attracting these odd (in my perspective) introverts. They are like the raiders seeking the Lost Arc, and Im the Arc. So they come and act extroverted, ask me questions, admire my Arc-ness, then they run off and are Very private, then they come back, everything is golden, then they get private. I am very fast paced, its like Sonic the Hedgehog, being me, meets a bada-- Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh. They do not speak much about themselves, hold back their emotions ( which is fun to try to find what makes them emotional), and never can pick which lane they want on the road. So, Im in the HIV, no, HOV lane, ( one of my fine car-jokes) and they are like, swerving every lane, never concluding on wat they want in life. Frustrating, because I know exactly everything that I want, which is pretty much Everything in life on Earth. But anyway, they are indirect, tactful, and these two guys are both in sales. Understand people enough to get what they want and nothing more, and are in the present moment mostly, never lending thought to much anything. Technical. Is this an Istp? Are they istp's? They think I am so cool and yet they dislike the unconventionality that breeds that cool. This puzzles me, and makes me think they are not good cranial dot-connectors. Matchstick neurotransmitters.So, there is this weird feel to the relation. They like how individualistic I am yet they dont, they are individualistic but then they arent, they are wishy washy and indirect, extremely considerate and caring, and well, this one drinks a lot and parties even more than a lot. Anyway, wth? I have no clue about this personality type, and why this type is attracted to me. Because my arguements with is type are frequent because 1) they are private and indirect, and I demand direct and communication for understanding-but have to ffight for that communication due to that privacy they have. 2) are they unconventional or conventional? They tend to think that I am reactionary in my points of view, because my viewpoints are so radically unusual than the norm, so they plant questions to confirm that I am reactionary, but I am not, I just walk on a different road than the societal norm. Thats annoying to both of us! Because I can see how ridiculous their thoughts are on who I am because if their question-plantings, and they dont muster an emotional reaction that would confirm their little reasonings of me just being a contrarian or whatnot. Its sincerely annoying. Then they are vain and party animals! Then they dont like talking and arguing. I think I have a huge blindspot, something I am missing, that my brain cannot wrap around. Would anyone lend me brain.I am so so confused. Who are these guys? What would you think?Tha

[Galen]

As much as I would like to answer your question, I do not have the patience to read through your novella of a post. Care to truncate it a bit?

[typhon]

Zan, on 04 June 2011 - 10:31 PM, said:

Hey guys! An introvert I hold sexual relations with has me stumped. Not sexually, but in understanding...anything about him.He is indecisive, great listener, conventional-yet he enjoys my oddity (Im an entp). He wants marriage, I want become a clown, move to Las Vegas, and sprint around slugging streetgirls. Or travel and get lost again, possible death involved, but just enough to motivate my survival, and in result have a different perspective on life, and thus entertain friends--blah blah.He is a conservative pot smoking Catholic, I guess, and I am a libertarian artsy/innovative, bulls and bears stock person.I try to call him every day, because I have to tell him about how great I did within that24 hours, and he finds that excessive. So, I compromised by sending him lengthy text messages about The Entire Scope of Life at the moment, and he tells me to "settle down" but yet I make him laugh and Im always fun, so. I further narrowed it to one page texts, yuck.The odd facet with him is that he has a wide range of friends. I have noticed a pattern in my attracting these odd (in my perspective) introverts. They are like the raiders seeking the Lost Arc, and Im the Arc. So they come and act extroverted, ask me questions, admire my Arc-ness, then they run off and are Very private, then they come back, everything is golden, then they get private. I am very fast paced, its like Sonic the Hedgehog, being me, meets a bada-- Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh. They do not speak much about themselves, hold back their emotions ( which is fun to try to find what makes them emotional), and never can pick which lane they want on the road. So, Im in the HIV, no, HOV lane, ( one of my fine car-jokes) and they are like, swerving every lane, never concluding on wat they want in life. Frustrating, because I know exactly everything that I want, which is pretty much Everything in life on Earth. But anyway, they are indirect, tactful, and these two guys are both in sales. Understand people enough to get what they want and nothing more, and are in the present moment mostly, never lending thought to much anything. Technical. Is this an Istp? Are they istp's? They think I am so cool and yet they dislike the unconventionality that breeds that cool. This puzzles me, and makes me think they are not good cranial dot-connectors. Matchstick neurotransmitters.So, there is this weird feel to the relation. They like how individualistic I am yet they dont, they are individualistic but then they arent, they are wishy washy and indirect, extremely considerate and caring, and well, this one drinks a lot and parties even more than a lot. Anyway, wth? I have no clue about this personality type, and why this type is attracted to me. Because my arguements with is type are frequent because 1) they are private and indirect, and I demand direct and communication for understanding-but have to ffight for that communication due to that privacy they have. 2) are they unconventional or conventional? They tend to think that I am reactionary in my points of view, because my viewpoints are so radically unusual than the norm, so they plant questions to confirm that I am reactionary, but I am not, I just walk on a different road than the societal norm. Thats annoying to both of us! Because I can see how ridiculous their thoughts are on who I am because if their question-plantings, and they dont muster an emotional reaction that would confirm their little reasonings of me just being a contrarian or whatnot. Its sincerely annoying. Then they are vain and party animals! Then they dont like talking and arguing. I think I have a huge blindspot, something I am missing, that my brain cannot wrap around. Would anyone lend me brain.I am so so confused. Who are these guys? What would you think?Tha

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