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[Director Abbie]

Dual: Highly recommended. Duals get along well while balancing each other.*
Beneficiary: Adequate. Benefactors get along, can work together, and find each other interesting.*
Semi-Dual: Adequate. Similar to duals, though some aspects will be annoying.
Kindred: Adequate. Understand each other while being different.*
Activation: Adequate. High energy levels and unbalanced.
Business: Adequate. Enjoyable as long as equality remains constant.*
Mirror: Adequate. Excellent communication, but not exciting.*
Illusionary: Adequate. Pleasant companions, but no excitement.
Supervision: Not recommended. Enjoyable at first, but inequality is a problem. Unbalanced.*
Contrary: Not recommended. Acceptable partners, but values contrast and views become irksome.*
Super-Ego: Inadequate. Have the same problem as Contrary. Also, extroverts will find Super-Egos difficult to live with.
Quasi-Identical: Inadequate. Of no use to each other and values contrast.
Conflict: Inadequate. Horrible communication. Trying to change each other "slightly" will result in more strife.


If you wish to state your own thoughts on this subject, please do so in a complete list. (Otherwise use a pm.) I'd like to keep this thread easy to read.
I've placed stars by the relationships I have seen.

[Galen]

Activation doesn't seem all that bad imo. Anything within one's own quadra should theoretically be best.

[April]

Galen, on 12 October 2010 - 12:19 AM, said:

Activation doesn't seem all that bad imo. Anything within one's own quadra should theoretically be best.

Yeah, I'd change this to "highly recommended" actually. I was in a very happy activity relationship for 2.5 years... just sorta fizzled, though, because I was too young and wanted more excitement.

[Gilly]

IMO in order of general desirability:

Duality
Activity
Identical
Mirror
Semi-Dual
Benefit
Illusionary
Kindred
Supervision
Business
Super-Ego
Contrary
Quasi-Identity
Conflict

[silverchris9]

Gilly, on 13 October 2010 - 07:01 AM, said:

IMO in order of general desirability:

Duality
Activity
Identical
Mirror
Semi-Dual
Benefit
Illusionary
Kindred
Supervision
Business
Super-Ego
Contrary
Quasi-Identity
Conflict

Agreed, except I'd switch semi and mirror. Or maybe that's just 'cause SEEs are better than LIIs, and maybe take illusionary over benefit, and kindred over benefit too, but after illusionary.

[Gilly]

idk, I tend to think values are the most important component of a successful, honest relationship.

[Jenna]

i'd put business above supervision, or at least being the supervisee is more uncomfortable.

[Gilly]

Well business is probably less dissonant in the most generalized, immediate sense of there being less overt conflict, but that's partly because of the inherent distance in having opposing first functions, but there is really nothing to be gained from these relationships except insecurity and constant mutual scrutiny when partners become intimate; on the surface, it works, and the people are similar enough to adapt to each others' lifestyle, but there is always distance and a lot of subjective adaptation is required for both parties to understand each other well.

Supervision isn't always the most comfortable, but if the supervisee is understanding and the supervisor is willing to adapt, there is a lot to be gained from these relations and they can accomplish a lot together. Also there is some mutual reward involved: the supervisee is allowed to express their dominant function freely and feels comfortable in it, as long as they are capable of asserting independence, has their DS function superficially fulfilled while receiving enough of the HA to keep them stable, and has their weakest point covered in the practical sense, while the supervisor feels needed in their dominant function, and gets their DS fulfilled (if ignored in the immediate sense), while being pushed to improve their HA and feeling free to exercise their creative function. Not the healthiest relationship, generally speaking, but there is a good amount of mutual benefit to be had, and generally a higher degree of compatibility/pieces fitting together than with business, which pretty much disintegrates to both parties adapting a "live and let live" attitude and accepting more emotional distance/inherent misunderstanding than anyone would really want in a healthy relationship. They can make for great friends or coworkers, and both people usually at least appreciate each other generally, but it's not very well geared for intimacy.

[Jenna]

ah okay; thanks gilly