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[blah]

Hello all, INTP here. I'd just like to know what signals my so-called dual gives off if he or she is interested romantically, because frankly I'm not good at reading other people. For example, there's one ESFP I know who shifts from being congenial and effusive one moment to being standoffish and aloof the next. He also seems to be a bit nervous around me and refuses to make eye contact. I wouldn't ordinarily care about things like this, but I'm quite attracted to him. Your thoughts?

[FDG]

UNDRESS UNDERESS NAKED SEX SEX SEX SEX

[dreamer]

Lol, I'm bad at it too. I can tell between other people but I'm not great at trusting myself about myself. I suggest just talking to him and flirting a bit and seeing if he'd respond. It depends on what kinda nervous he is, are esfps usually nervous?

[blah]

dreamer, on Oct 13 2006, 10:17 AM, said:

Lol, I'm bad at it too. I can tell between other people but I'm not great at trusting myself about myself. I suggest just talking to him and flirting a bit and seeing if he'd respond. It depends on what kinda nervous he is, are esfps usually nervous?

That's what I'm having trouble figuring out. Most ESFPs are completely open and emotionally demonstrative around me, but this one isn't. I think my perception of his behavior is slightly tainted by wishful thinking (read: I'm hoping his nervousness is indicative of interest), so I can't fully trust myself on this one. And I don't think my flirting would help matters much - that's his job :0).

[FDG]

That's really typical of when you're into a girl and you're unsure on whether she likes you or not. That's the motivation of my idiotic comment.

[blah]

[liveandletlive]

u probably make her nervous. duals are weird at first but just try to act like ur ili self and she'll come around.

[Herzy]

Well I have one ESFp friend who would always hang around me whenever he saw me. He often tried to initiate one-on-one conversations too, even if we were both hanging out with a lot of other people. He also talked about sex a whole lot, obviously.

What's funny was that I had no idea that he was into me at all until a bunch of my friends started telling me about it. At first they were like, "Lol, he has a huge crush on you," which then progressed to "Yeah, he's wanted to get into your pants for the past year." A lot of it I thought he was just trying to be a friend.

One interesting thing was that he always asks me about this INFp guy that I was interested in. He says stuff like, "What attracts you to him?" and "Are you still into him? You guys are so different...this whole thing with him is so random..." and "What would you do if I goatsed you? Would you like it if (INFp) goatsed you?"

Usually it's fairly obvious with ESFps if they're into you, but I have a hard time gauging relationships anyways, so it might seem like they're just trying to befriend you.

[hoodrat]

If an SEE goes out of his way to have one on one with you consistantly, chances are he probably wants to jump your bones.

[Antitachyon]

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how to tell if esfp is interested

You don't. ESFps are always interested.

[dolphin]

pesto, on Sep 24 2008, 06:54 AM, said:

When their eyes get big, they stretch their bodies and then lean in on you while fixating on your eyes? It scares me to death, so I wouldn't know if that's them showing interest, but it looks like it when they do it to other people.

this is kind of gross

[Capitalist Pig]

ummm, i don't really have anything to add to this thread i just felt like posting cuz it's about my so-called dual.





sup.

[Banana Pancakes]

They pursue pursue pursue you until they get what they want from you?

[dolphin]

no, they blow your fucking brains out with absolute stupidity

[hoodrat]

blah, on Oct 13 2006, 05:53 AM, said:

That's what I'm having trouble figuring out. Most ESFPs are completely open and emotionally demonstrative around me, but this one isn't. I think my perception of his behavior is slightly tainted by wishful thinking (read: I'm hoping his nervousness is indicative of interest), so I can't fully trust myself on this one. And I don't think my flirting would help matters much - that's his job :0).

Naa, I do this a lot.... one of my best tactics for someone I really like. Don't worry about it at all! Just make yourself approachable to the SEE. The whole "totally into you" one moment thing, then complete indifference the next is all part of the power game SEEs tend to find themeselves in with a potential fuck. Remember, SEE is a static type. If they're into you, they're probably going to be into you for good unless the bridges get COMPLETELY BURNED.... I'm talking like....restraining order. Or else you get a labotomy or something. Trust me when I say this.... it may take a year or 2, but if you know you've gotten really close to an SEE you've probably got him deep down for good. I know this. I've pulled some relationships out of the shitter that I would have thought had NO CHANCE for redemption until I actually saved them.... Sometimes I even surprise myself .

(edit for this first part: on second thought, just be yourself and do what's natural. Although I say I would like ILI to bend over backwards and spread their legs in theory, in actuality, it's probably the whole "hard to get" thing that keeps us so enticed in the first place! Just don't be too discouraging.... Always keep the carrot in front of the horse if you can, but don't even throw the carrot in the garbage disposal. That'll make us really sad and pissed off and probably spiteful enough to go find someone else to fuck right in front of you, and that'll make you very sad. Give us at least enough hints to keep us coming back for more and not go off looking for another.)

pesto, on Sep 24 2008, 08:54 AM, said:

When their eyes get big, they stretch their bodies and then lean in on you while fixating on your eyes? It scares me to death, so I wouldn't know if that's them showing interest, but it looks like it when they do it to other people.

Hmm... sounds just like someone I know! That's why we like ILIs.... they seem to get like... hypnotized by this. There is no greater flattery/accomplishment to me than the way an ILI reacts to the above behavior (they would probably deny reacting this way if you asked them, but trust me, they do).

[crazedrat]

For the record, the stupidest type in the socion is ISFp-Si. They will attempt to have a deep conversation with you about vegetables, protein, the shapes of plants, how buttons on a microwave work... it happens to me every day. Just yesterday I had a 5 minute conversation on the need for me to regularly check the specially designed thermometer in the bottom of my fridge and make sure it's in 'that blue zone'. it took her 5 minutes. 5 minutes of me saying ......ahh, oh...., oh really ... We were talking just about the fridge the whole time. How the variation of the cooling button will affect the temperature.. how she thinks it makes the most sense for 0 to mean coolest, and 7 to mean warmest... but then again 7 could mean highest power of cooling, hence being coolest, and 0 may mean off... how right now it's on 2 for sure... how i gota make sure i check it regularly... repeat that cycle of dialogue about three times... add in a 'what's in there now?'.... along with a 'is it cold?'.... it's retardation. That is exactly what ISFp-Si is: retardation.

[borderline]

crazedrat, on Oct 27 2008, 07:56 PM, said:

For the record, the stupidest type in the socion is ISFp-Si. They will attempt to have a deep conversation with you about vegetables, protein, the shapes of plants, how buttons on a microwave work... it happens to me every day. Just yesterday I had a 5 minute conversation on the need for me to regularly check the specially designed thermometer in the bottom of my fridge and make sure it's in 'that blue zone'. it took her 5 minutes. 5 minutes of me saying ......ahh, oh...., oh really ... We were talking just about the fridge the whole time. How the variation of the cooling button will affect the temperature.. how she thinks it makes the most sense for 0 to mean coolest, and 7 to mean warmest... but then again 7 could mean highest power of cooling, hence being coolest, and 0 may mean off... how right now it's on 2 for sure... how i gota make sure i check it regularly... repeat that cycle of dialogue about three times... add in a 'what's in there now?'.... along with a 'is it cold?'.... it's retardation. That is exactly what ISFp-Si is: retardation.

I disagree. Fe-ISFps should all seriously fall down and die. They're so incredibly annoying.

[Riddy]

crazedrat, on Oct 27 2008, 06:56 PM, said:

For the record, the stupidest type in the socion is ISFp-Si. They will attempt to have a deep conversation with you about vegetables, protein, the shapes of plants, how buttons on a microwave work... it happens to me every day. Just yesterday I had a 5 minute conversation on the need for me to regularly check the specially designed thermometer in the bottom of my fridge and make sure it's in 'that blue zone'. it took her 5 minutes. 5 minutes of me saying ......ahh, oh...., oh really ... We were talking just about the fridge the whole time. How the variation of the cooling button will affect the temperature.. how she thinks it makes the most sense for 0 to mean coolest, and 7 to mean warmest... but then again 7 could mean highest power of cooling, hence being coolest, and 0 may mean off... how right now it's on 2 for sure... how i gota make sure i check it regularly... repeat that cycle of dialogue about three times... add in a 'what's in there now?'.... along with a 'is it cold?'.... it's retardation. That is exactly what ISFp-Si is: retardation.

Allie, on Oct 27 2008, 07:14 PM, said:

I disagree. Fe-ISFps should all seriously fall down and die. They're so incredibly annoying.

You two shut up. You know what happens to ISFp haters...

[borderline]

Riddy, on Oct 27 2008, 08:33 PM, said:

You two shut up. You know what happens to ISFp haters...

They eat us?

[crazedrat]

So i just now went downstairs to get a peanut butter sandwich. I grabbed some multi-grain bread out of the fridge. The ISFp is sitting there on the couch in ~another room, actually facing slightly away from me~. She observes from a distance me grabbing this type of bread, and calls over to me "ian you sure you don't want to use the sour-doe bread?" .....
I just said "I do not want to use sour dough bread" exactly like that. my idea is that if i oppose their babble in the most explicit way possible without introducing any new concepts into the equation at all, that this is the only way to stop them.

[Khamelion]

crazedrat, on Oct 27 2008, 09:03 PM, said:

So i just now went downstairs to get a peanut butter sandwich. I grabbed some multi-grain bread out of the fridge. The ISFp is sitting there on the couch in ~another room, actually facing slightly away from me~. She observes from a distance me grabbing this type of bread, and calls over to me "ian you sure you don't want to use the sour-doe bread?" .....
I just said "I do not want to use sour dough bread" exactly like that. my idea is that if i oppose their babble in the most explicit way possible without introducing any new concepts into the equation at all, that this is the only way to stop them.

rofl


are you REALLY sure you dont want to use sour dough bread though?

actually don't. its gross. sour dough pretzels on the other hand... good stuff. im not sure why this is.




why would she suggest sour dough bread as opposed to the one you picked to eat?

wow that is an annoying question. i would have shouted in a strange tone to make them all confused and feel like they might have done something wrong. "NO WHY WOULD I?!?! DID YOU POISON IT??? BASTARD!! FUCK *walk out of room cursing even though im not really mad*"

i might not put on that much of a performance but i think that would be funny to do. their Fe would be like, "OH NOES MY GOD I AM A BAD PERSON!!??"

maybe. i dont know, im tired.

[goat]

the girl is just a fucking retard... not type related.

[borderline]

BionicGoat, on Oct 28 2008, 12:45 AM, said:

the girl is just a fucking retard... not type related.

Yeah.

[crazedrat]

at the very least, it's type related in how her retardation manifests itself

[goat]

crazedrat, on Oct 28 2008, 12:13 PM, said:

at the very least, it's type related in how her retardation manifests itself

ok I can accept that

[Capitalist Pig]

this thread gets added to at least once a month, but it seems to have slacked since october, so i'm just bumpin' it

[CipJoict]

I dont turn eighteen until September, hence why Id have to tell my mom. And in my opinion, Id be doing my mom a favor seeing as how she and I only argue about every little thing.

[Tom]

Who are half the people in this thread?